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JULIUS EWALD KARL: Stories from his life

JEK: Julius E. Karl’s Life in Photos – click here:

JEK: The story of His Life from Birth to Marriage

“Till death do us part” came in January 1999 after 31 years and 2 months of marriage ending Julius’ nearly 14-year fight with non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. Since that time, I [Yvonne] have chosen to focus on the positive and spend the rest of my life praising God for His mercy and grace. I take to heart the Apostle Paul’s words: A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes … In [Paul’s] judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is–and I think that I, Paul, also have the Spirit of God (1 Corinthians 7:39-40).

Thank You Heavenly Father for bringing Julius and me through 31 years of marriage “to have and to hold, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health” till death parted us in this life. Thank You for Your grace that was greater than all of our problems and for faith in You that held us together till the end. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

November 24, 2017, we would have celebrated our 50th Anniversary, and in his honor and memory, here is the story of his life from birth to marriage. It’s a story of overcoming hardship inflicted by war, living in four different countries, pursuing education to the highest degree and, through it all, loving and serving God, the Father of Jesus Christ.

Special thanks goes to Julius’ youngest sister Frieda, for contributing her written memories of the Karl Family’s life and for verifying specific dates and events. Some of the information was written and told by Julius himself before he died. Finally, Yvonne draws from stories Julius told over and over again to his family and friends. While somewhat in chronological order, there are overlapping stories and some repetition to bring clarity to the events.

Each chapter is short and listed separately below. It should open when you click on it.


JEK-Chapter 01-His Immediate Family

JEK-Chapter 02-A Child in Time of War

JEK-Chapter 03-The Faith of My Parents, written by Julius in 1988

JEK-Chapter 04-Youth, Education, and Christian Commitment

JEK-Chapter 05 – Growing up and War Comes, by Frieda Karl, youngest sister of Julius

JEK-Chapter 06 – Escape to Freedom, by Frieda

JEK-Chapter 07 – Leaving Germany for Canada

JEK-Chapter 08 – College Bound

JEK-Chapter 09 – Julius seeks and finds a wife

JEK-Chapter 10-How Julius met Yvonne – The CHOG Connection

JEK-Chapter 11-The Wedding and After

JEK- Julius Karl-The end of his life journey

JEK: Julius E. Karl’s Life in Photos –

JEK-Chapter 12-Short Stories

JEK-Dissertation Abstract IU – for PHD 1974

Papers Julius wrote for B. A. Classes in 1965

JEK AutoBio 01-65

JEK AutoBio 06-65

JEK-My Education 01-65

Marriage: Wedding Charge



As they become Mr. and Mrs. Kirby

11 June 2011 – 1 pm

Maranatha Fellowship Church

St. Albans, West Virginia

Written and Given by Aunt Yvonne in their Wedding Ceremony


What an awesome and holy time this is.

A time to walk away from your past and into your future.

A time to transition from dream to reality.

A time to let the love that brought you together

now be the glue that keeps you together.

Today, I charge you to remember that Scripture, not culture, is the manual for a stable and fulfilling married life. Scripture says, “God brings the best out in you. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind with God’s Word. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is for every area of your life” (Rom. 12:2, NIV). He desires that you encourage each other to develop and walk in the gifts and callings He has given each of you.

I charge you to pray and read the scriptures together on a regular basis and thereby resolve problems by the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus says if the two of you agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by your Heavenly Father (Matt. 18:19). He doesn’t give you a timetable. Jesus also says when you pray, go away by yourself, shut the door behind you, and pray to your Father in private. Then your Father, who sees everything, will reward you (Matt. 6:6). Thus, you also need to have your private place of prayer. There are some things you’ll pray for that need to be heard only by the ears of your Heavenly Father—and no one else.

I charge you to follow scriptural advice on finances. You won’t need everything everyone else has. Jesus says, Protect yourselves against the least bit of greed. Life is not defined by what you have, even when you have a lot (Luke 12:15). Don’t try to hide purchases from each other. Don’t give in to the lust of the eyes and the pride of life for they will cause you to make debt, and a borrower becomes a servant to the lender (Prov. 22:7). This compromises your service to the Kingdom of God.

I charge you to honor 1 Cor. 7:3-5 and fulfill each other’s sexual needs. Do not deprive each other unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Steve, I charge you to be considerate as you live with your wife, and treat her with respect. Study her and learn to read her emotions. She is a woman of God—but she IS a woman! When 1 Pet. 3:7 refers to her as a “weaker vessel,” it’s the picture of a precious, valuable vase that must be treated with gentle care so it won’t be broken. At the same time, this verse says to remember that she is an equal heir with you of the grace of life and if you mistreat her, your prayers will be hindered.

Lane, I charge you to show respect to your husband (Eph. 5:33b). Honor him. Cherish him. Encourage him. Value him. Accept his counsel. Overlook his faults—for they will all be minor! (Prov. 19:11).

I charge you both to recognize that marriage is a relationship of two persons who are not always at their best. When you put two people — any two, even two spirit-filled people — in the same house, you’re going to have irritations and annoyances. In these moments, be guided by (Eph. 5:15-17; 4:31-32) which says don’t resort to sarcasm, backbiting, and profane talk. Be gentle with one another and sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you. Marriage, takes time and careful nurturing to become really beautiful. That means learning patience. Together with Jesus, you can survive every situation. “A three-fold cord—Stephen, Lane, and Jesus— cannot easily be broken.”

I charge you both to be completely transparent with one another. When you start to hide attitudes, feelings, purchases, or decisions from each other, the cover-up begins and corrupts the marriage. Remember, your life is no longer your own. By your free choice, you now belong first to Christ and then to each other.

Finally, I charge you to demonstrate the life of Christ. Yes! You do have a charge to keep. A charge to glorify God in all you say and do; a charge to fulfill your calling. A charge to live a holy and godly life. Your success in your calling will only be as strong as your marriage.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, Steve and Lane stand before you this day charged to be husband and wife as you have designed marriage to be; charged to live in such a way that their marriage points the way to the relationship between Christ and the Church. May they be filled with the enabling power of the Holy Ghost to live an exemplary life to your glory and honor and for the edification and comfort of all who know them. In Jesus’ Name, I pray. Amen.


Written by Yvonne Karl especially for the wedding of Stephen and Lane Kirby, her niece. Her niece is the only daughter of her only brother Richard Hively. She is Dean of Maranatha Bible Institute. Her new husband Stephen is in the medical profession. Here they are leaving their wedding reception on  11 June 2011. Maranatha Fellowship Church, St. Albans, WV. (For Permisson to use this Charge in any form, contact the author at:



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